Murphy’s (Paternity) Law

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Focusonthefamily.com states in their research that “tweens and teens need the firm leadership a father provides. A child performs better in school if his father takes an interest in his education. Children have more confidence when their fathers spend time with them and show them affection. Kids learn from watching their fathers’ decisions and listening to logical explanations.” In reading this proclamation by focusonthefamily.com, it truly does resonate with me on a personal level as I recall my childhood in which I was blessed to have grown up with both parents intact. My father passed some eight years ago and the void he left within the confines of our family tapestry has yet to be mended, thus leaving a vacancy in the inner workings of our family unit that has been hard to replicate, as well as, replace. Proverbs 13:22 states: “A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.” This all but solidifies the important role delegated to those men who decide to procreate. The responsibility depths of fatherhood delve a lot deeper than simply providing an income or shelter nowadays. The complex world of childhood requires both parents to be on hand due to the plethora of societal land mines and emotional entrapments that bombard the psyche of a growing life and an impressionable mind. This is no longer the “glory days of yesteryear” as child-bearing and child rendering is a job no longer suited for that of one parent. I have personally had the in-enviable task of helping to raise two children and know that there are epic highs and valley lows as it pertains to the process of developing a life. You often pray that you are applying the correct methodology when providing parental guidance, as one slight mishap could have lasting ramifications for many years to come. It takes two to tango, so why should the job of parenting be any different? Perhaps this was the same premise that New York Mets second basemen Daniel Murphy acquiesced to regarding the recent birth of his child when he opted to take paternity leave to be by his wife’s side after she endured a Caesarean Section (C-Section). Daniel Murphy has endured a blitzkrieg of criticism from local New York sports radio personalities Mike Francesa and Boomer Esiason, who have lambasted Daniel Murphy for opting to take a paternity leave. Boomer Esiason was even more animal-like and barbaric enough to suggest that he would have made his wife get a C-Section before the season began (makes me wonder what his wife felt like when hearing this). Of course we are all entitled to our opinions, however, Daniel Murphy was within his rights due to the newly adopted policy by Major League Baseball in 2011, that allows players to take paternity leave during the birth of their children. In fact Daniel Murphy actually returned early from his allotted time to rejoin his team. What I find to be disingenuous is the fact that countless athletes are ridiculed for being irresponsible sperm banks and an absentee father, but for some reason a man who decides to be responsible is suddenly sand-blasted by critics. Many can argue the fact that he’s being paid a king’s ransom and owes it to his team and the fans etc.; however is that supposed to make him less than human? Does Daniel Murphy suddenly have to be a cold-blooded baby maker who leaves the money on the nightstand with a note that says “Sorry I had to leave”? What gets lost in all of this is the fact that his employer had no issue with him leaving. So it begs the question of who is Boomer “The Animal” Esiason or the pompous and fluently arrogant Mike Francesa to say otherwise? Daniel Murphy for the record has been nothing less than stellar as it relates to showing up for work. Daniel Murphy’s games played average is 161 per season. The Major League Baseball season is 162 games long. To knit pick on him taking two games off not only shows a lack of humanity, but it also shows the venomous nature of big mouth radio hosts who have run out of substantial material of relevancy and have thus decided to trespass into the personal life and personal ethics of a man and his belief system. What’s next? Religion? Sexual preference? What he eats at the dinner table? This was a choice supported by the New York Mets and unless your last name is Wilpon, your opinion is pointless and irrelevant. I applaud Daniel Murphy for being a father instead of a by-standing participant. We need more men who walk the walk and less big-mouthed radio talks. Some should ask Boomer and Mike if it was their daughters in labor, would they want a man like Daniel or one like them. They both need to start with the morality of man in their respective mirrors. #geico cavemen

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